The statement I hear repeatedly in most conversations is "I don't want ...." We are trained to know what we don't want because we are mostly told what not to do. That creates fear of freedom, anxiety misinterpreted as frustration, and resistance to courage. It's not about what you want or what you are against as much as what you are for. Everyone looks the same when against. What you are for distinguishes the message that makes a difference from the protest that only can make a point against a point of difference.