Conflict resolution can take place within one's heart regardless of the other side in the conflict. It doesn't take two to tango. Romans 12:18 Until I realize this, I will not only try to control the conflict but may not even be aware of how controlling I am. One of the important marks of a Christian should be self-control. Yet, often it is the self that is in control.

What is the self? Self is the veil that hides the face of God from us. It can only be removed by spiritual experience, not by mere instruction. 2 Corinthians 3:14-18.

The self makes us think the teachings of Christ are false or that His teachings are more important than He, himself. John 5:39,40

We often reveal this by saying "God gave me a brain. I'm not going to put it in my back pocket".

It's not the teachings of Christ but the Christ who teaches.

Part of the confusion that comes from this veil is how we view change. Change is the result of imperfection. Psalm 119:96

Change is often viewed as someone or something becoming different and difference threatens. What we do in response to a threat is to kill it or control it.

I learn that it is Peace(Micah 5:5) that I seek in conflict through hearing(Psalm 85:8). It is near that Peace that my rebellion is tamed so I can learn to quit trying to have to resolve the conflict to have peace.

Rebellion is how the self "spiritualizes" or justifies itself. Simply demanding justice rather than the resolve to be who I'm called to be in or out of conflict. Daniel 1:8